How to deal with your habit to conform

My Journey is My Destination

It was the late seventies, I may have been six years of age, I learned the harshest reality of my life, the fact that I was a girl. I remember that day sitting with a piles of dirty dishes and washing them for hours. While my brother, though five years older to me, just bounced around with no care in the world.  That day I separated in many ways from my parents because I felt denied of their love, from my brother, because I felt cheated by him and from myself, because I was just a girl.

Deep within, unbeknownst to me, there was a fighter. And as house work kept piling on me over the next few years, and as my marks kept deteriorating in school, I promised to myself, that if this was going to be a fight, then fight I would. Not knowing the outcome of this innocent pledge, I embarked on a journey of endless fight backs against those who were supposed to protect and nurture me and sorrowful outcomes of those fights.

For those who take the challenge of life head long, life comes head on to them. And so it followed, fast forward to the early nineties, I noticed little girls being subjected to the same indignity growing up. I made another promise. A promise to help... And just like that, I had a purpose to my life.

I was in my most productive years. Life took over for a while, I got busy with building a career as a CA. But back in my mind, I was subconsciously constructing a plan for my chosen purpose, not aware of it myself at that time. As I battled through life's many quirks, I learned a few secrets. Here are three that are resounding:

Secret 1: Nothing in this life happens without reason. There is an outcome of every event.

Secret 2: Everything in this life can be taken positively, no matter how painful, unwelcome or heart wrenching it may be.

Secret 3: Across those painful moments there is new vigour for life awaiting for us. We just need to stay committed to get past all that pain.

Folks, to cut the long story short, I found myself supporting my friends to dream new dreams and to be fiercely independent. The path that I had chosen was slowly getting paved and readied for me to take that big leap towards my dream.

Does my story ring a bell? Does it resonate with you? I would love to hear from you. Please message me privately so we can connect.